Gazebo Designs

Im lost, I really need advice?

My fiance & I have decided that we want a private wedding for just the two of us. I have always wanted this since I was little, I love the idea of it being very intimate & a private memory we just share & conveniently he has always wanted to elope! We will have been together for 5 years in a few months & I've always wanted to get married in the fall, so instead of waiting another year, we're going to get married October 20th, 2010 ( 127 days to go!!! ) I need help with wedding ideas. We both agree we want it filmed & we want a photographer there. Now we want it to be just us, but we still want it to be wedding like. ( not just go up to city hall) The idea we have is to have a ceremony in a gazebo with us & our pastor, with a string quartet, flower & candles everywhere, it will be perfect-just like my wonderful future husband aka my best friend is =) We want to do something together after the ceremony & before we go to italy, kinda like a reception, but we have no idea what to do. The only thing we thought of was designing a small cake for two, but I really need more ideas. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this & give your opinion :) oh, the wedding will take place at sunset in Omaha, NE.

Public Comments

1. ok think about how much this must hurt your family. don;t you think your parents want to see you get married in person? its wrong to elope. unless they don't like your fiance
2. I really don't know what you are asking as you seem to have everything planned out, but most places no matter what you have to have two witnesses present . Check this out .
3. No it is all wrong girl
4. You could ask your family members to join you in the park or wherever your Gazebo will be placed and have a Champagne reception-only serve Champagne and cake/wedding cupcakes.
5. get referrals from different people
6. If this is what you want, then have faith in your vision and go for it. Legally, though, you are going to require witnesses. If you want to have something 'kind of like a reception', then just arrange to have your family and friends waiting for you at a restaurant afterwards so you can all celebrate together. That way, you can still have your intimate ceremony, but your loved ones will feel included in your day as they are invited to the reception and can see you straight afterwards.
7. "kinda like a reception...a small cake for two." So you don't want anyone at the reception either, just you and your new spouse? As a couple of posters have mentioned, you will need witnesses unless you're planning on asking 2 of the quartet act to as witnesses for you! You have your reasons but it seems there will be more non-friends and family at your wedding than friends and family, (no bridesmaid or best man either?) Are you SURE neither you nor your fiance want ANY family there at all? Would they not be hurt or offended you didn't want to share your special day with them? Not judging you, ok - you just need to be sure about this. You're right, a wedding is ultimately about the vows between the bride and groom but part of what can make it so happy an occasion, is having the warmth and support of family or at least, friends around you! If you're really intent on going ahead just the two of you alone, I'm not sure what kind of ideas you're after short of a meal for 2 somewhere because that small a reception isn't conducive to a whole lot of options...even your cake for 2 (which sounds sweet in itself), where are you going to cut it? At the gazebo, in a restaurant, in your home? See what I mean - if you don't involve other people, it's really hard to do much. I don't know how close you might or might not be to a beach - you say Omaha, but I'm not American!but they are romantic places to be for a couple by themselves. Italy is a romantic place and your honeymoon is certainly a time you get to spend as just the two of you - please be sure you don't want even a friend or two at your actual wedding though - you will want to look at your photos for the rest of your life, no regrets and all that, yeah?
8. If this is your dream wedding, then you should do what you want. And if this is something you've wanted since you were little, I'll bet your parents will understand and even anticipate it. You can always celebrate with everyone when you get back. In terms of what to do after the ceremony, why not have a special meal or picnic at the place you met or where he proposed?